Your manor barn wedding at Agerup

From 8 am on Friday until 10 pm on Sunday, the manor house, the barn and the park are yours, in whole days; many couples add Thursday as an extra day to set up. No other parties on the estate and no changeovers: one wedding at a time.

The barn was built for the estate's farming, and the celebration is held there, under a roof that rises 7.3 m to the ridge. It seats up to 149 guests at long tables, and with round tables it works best with at most 128. The manor house and its 23 beds are included in every booking, so the people closest to you can sleep on the estate, close to the party in the barn.

Agerup Farm & Manor House is on the Danish island of Lolland, about 1 hour 35 minutes from Copenhagen by car. Far enough to feel like somewhere else, and close enough that nobody living in Denmark has to fly.

What couples remember afterwards is not only the night in the barn. It is Sunday morning: both families making coffee in the manor house kitchen, brunch with parents and siblings at one table, and nobody who had to drive home at 11pm.

23 guests sleep in the manor house, across 11 bedrooms, and it is included: the two of you, parents, siblings and the people closest to you. 9 more can stay in The Major's House, a two-storey forester's house from 1910, about 400 m from the manor house, with one shared bathroom. It is available as an add-on, and with it comes room for up to 5 tents in its garden. Up to 32 guests sleep in the houses in all.

Other guests can stay at Hotel Saxkjøbing or Danhostel Sakskøbing (10 minutes away), Milling Hotel Søpark in Maribo (12 minutes) or Bandholm Badehotel (16 minutes). These are local options, not recommendations.

The manor house has at times been Frederik and Lea's own home, and it feels like a home, not a hotel. Bedrooms, kitchen, sitting rooms and garden are yours for the weekend, with no reception desk and no breakfast hours.

You choose your own caterer, musicians, florist and photographer, and a coordinator if you want one. The barn and the manor house are the frame. What happens inside them is yours to decide.

No vendor list dictates who you can book, and no package decides what you get. Frederik can name local caterers; they are local options, not recommendations, and any serious supplier is welcome.

The hire includes tables and chairs for 149 guests: 18 round tables, the long tables, which are table-and-bench sets, a fire grill, a scissor lift and a toilet trailer with two toilets. Bed linen, towels, electricity, heating and final cleaning are included too. You bring catering, drinks, tableware, tablecloths and the lighting for the barn, where string lights hang from fixed wires. There is plenty of power and water in the barn, with a fridge and a freezer.

The manor house kitchen is available to your caterer. Further down, a demo lets you try laying out the tables in the barn.

Season. Weddings run from May to September. The barn is unheated, and its doors can stand open all night onto the summer evening.

Ceremony. The ceremony is held in the park south of the manor house, with the house behind you. If it rains, the ceremony and the reception move into the barn, which is always ready. The lake and the bathing jetty are for a walk with the photographer.

Booking. A confirmation invoice for half the hire secures the date, and the rest is paid six months before the wedding; book later than that, and everything is paid at once. There is no deposit, and cancellation follows the Terms & Conditions. Six months is enough to book and plan; book earlier, and you have more dates to choose from.

Getting here. Agerup Farm & Manor House, Agerupvej 16, Våbensted, 4990 Sakskøbing, on Lolland. About 140 km and 1 hour 35 minutes south of Copenhagen by car; the nearest station is Sakskøbing, 5 km away. It is about 3 hours from Hamburg with the Puttgarden–Rødby ferry. Guests flying in land at Copenhagen Airport. Nymand Busser can run a shuttle for your guests.

Getting married in Denmark. For a symbolic or religious ceremony, the estate is simply the location. A church wedding is arranged with the parish, if one of you is a member of the Church of Denmark (Folkekirken). A Danish civil marriage has documentation requirements that vary by nationality and change over time; check the current rules with Familieretshuset (the Danish Agency of Family Law) or Guldborgsund Municipality. Couples have been married civilly at Agerup, but Guldborgsund Municipality's practice changes, so check the current options with the municipality.

The Reventlow family has been connected to Agerup since 1799, and Frederik's grandparents bought the estate in 1955. Frederik and Lea Reventlow own it today. The manor house was built in 1858–1860 and has at times been their family's home.

Frederik answers when you write, and he always shows you around the estate himself before you decide. Not a venue coordinator, but the owner, who checks you in himself and whom you can always call. The tour is the place for every question a website cannot answer.